I remember the times I used to sit down and listen to my grandfather telling stories of the '' good old days'' in Moshi. In the ''good old days'' owning agricultural land and livestock was considered a measure of someone's wealth.
In order to be able to cultivate huge plots of land and keep many livestock, men married as many wives as they could afford. The value of a ''good wife'' was measured by her ability to work hard and to bear children.
A man was responsible in protecting and providing for his family. Wives were responsible in supporting their husband to maintain family values, uphold traditions and ensure economic prosperity for the family.
With globalization the ''old days'' are slowly disappearing. Polygamy is being frowned upon as ''uncivilised.''
The old customs around polygamy were respectful and an extension of good will between families in community.
To ensure peace and prosperity within the family, the first wife had to approve the addition of the second wife, and also participated in the family negotiations before the marriage was approved by both sides of the family.
Thereafter, the hierachy within the household was ranked from top to bottom starting with husband, first wife, second wife and so on.
Peace and harmony was a way of life. The wives worked hard on the fields from dawn till evening, and yet they still managed to perform their household duties proudly and efficiently.
The agricultural produce were sold and shared among family members. The pride of the head of the family came from his wives looking healthy, happy and well cared for.
His success depended on his wives working hard and upholding family honour. The wives pride came from the success of their husband among his peers. The wisdom and wealth of their husband, also increased the wives status within the community.
Nowadays, polygamy is frowned upon. But for Africa, it worked well enough for centuries.
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